Dear Readers,

I write about a lot about relationships in this blog and that is because they are VERY important to me. I think I am not alone in saying that the relationships we have are a big part of who we are. We are “relational” people. Meaning that, we are informed by our relationships with others and taking the time to determine if someone is here for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.

I have to admit to making errors in this department. Many times I will think when I meet someone.. they are a lifetime friend, but it turns out that no, they were here for a season (say when I was in college or early in my dating life) – they morph into acquaintances that occasionally like posts on social media but no more effort than that is put into the relationship. But at one time, this was a person you saw daily and you were sure, “this is a lifetime friendship- It used to hurt my feelings when this happened and I took it VERY personally but now I figure, if its not meant to be, why force it?

The reason is the hardest one for me mainly because that person usually shows me something about myself that I do not like and or it can be a difficult relationship which firmly plants it in the “reason” category which is hard because growth is hard. It stretches your muscles and ligaments and makes you literally bust out of your comfort zone.

Defining these relationships helps you to clarify who you are and what you are after in life. It becomes even more important therefore to hone the skill of surrounding yourself with people who want to be in the circle. Don’t waste your time with people who don’t want to be around you. It seems pretty simple but if you are not careful you can find yourself in toxic relationships that don’t enrich you at all.

Be sure to “seek people who “fan your flames” and help you to be MORE of what you already are.

Think about it….