I find it on my heart and more importantly on my mind to talk about boundaries. Choosing your friends wisely is important, and you choose your friends in the act of spending time with them. Think about it, by spending your time, (as precious a commodity as money) you are sending the message I care about you, your life, your dreams and hopes. Relationships, romantic or otherwise require work and equal amounts of effort. It’s not always easy in the maelstrom of work, love, life and the pursuit of happiness to support friendships but its almost always worth it.
Boundaries are important, if for no other reason then it sets up for people you interact with what you will accept and what you will not. This includes boundaries for your friends, colleagues, and partners. It is so easy to just let things be what they will and its hard sometimes to ask for what you want but in my experience it is the only way to get it. So if you are unhappy with the state of your relationship, ask yourself the question. 1. What do I want? 2. What am I doing to get it? 3. How is that working?
If you know what you want, and are doing all can to get it and its not working, the problem isn’t you.