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Haston Helping Hands- Jenn Haston- Author, Speaker, Activist-Helping People Find Their Balance

Think It, Say It, DO It!

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I have always believed in the phrase, speak it into existence, fake it till you make, or act as if you have faith and faith will be given to you.

Never has this been more true than recently with my weight loss goal. I posted about this goal of losing 50 pounds in mid-December. 

I remember thinking to myself, that’s a good goal, and eating better should help that but its going to take a while and I need to be patient. This started with the small step (felt humongous at the time) of giving up soda because I read a blog about how it helped a woman lose 10 pounds in a month and I thought, well that will be worth trying. I can always pick it back up again if I can’t do it. Then someone my husband works with started talking to him about weight loss and nutrition because we are both overweight and got him very excited about the possibility of weight loss on the paleo diet.  www.paleoaholic.com

I have been overweight or pleasantly plump for most of my life, and it plagues me. I don’t desire to be supermodel skinny, but I am looking forward to not having to wear baggy pants and hang on to that shirt that is just a little bigger so it hides my “fat”.

At the end of last year, my husband and I both had a pretty strong reason to get our health under control, and we decided to change our diet. We have both stuck steadfastly to the paleo diet and experimented with many recipes, I say we, but in truth it is my amazing husband who experiments and cooks and I just say, wow, I never thought of that as something to put together, like shepherd’s pie with quinoa, ground beef, and sweet potatoes, that’s delicious!

I realize the power of making a statement where others read it, and will hold your feet to the fire is incredible. Its not as though I get pressure from people but when they ask how its going I am excited to tell them, so far since I started this journey, I have lost 21 pounds! When you think about the goal of 50 it seems so insurmountable but I am almost halfway to my goal, which is also exciting because it means now, I have outgrown this goal and its time to set a new one. So here goes, I want to lose 75 pounds which will put me at a healthy weight for my height and body mass index which I lamented in November I might never get to and now I really believe it is possible. I also said I wanted to read more books. That isn’t very measurable, so I am updating that goal to 10 books this year. I have already read three. I said I wanted to give 10 speeches this year, I have already given one so everything that seemed so far out of reach, now seems doable, possible and even probable!

What do you want to do? Who will hold your feet to the fire to get it done?  

What do you want to be when you grow up?

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This is a universal question asked to thousands of children everywhere. The answer.

Ballerina

Fireman

Scientist

The list goes on and on as far as the eye can see and the mind can expand.. There are jobs kids are talking about that haven’t even been invented yet! Its important when we hear these answers we stoke desire in those little hearts and minds, not limitations. While on the subject of dreams and encouraging them.. This is not limited to kids. We, adults have dreams too, and its important that we encourage those too. If someone says to you, “I want to learn a new language” be sure you build them up by saying, That sounds like fun, what is your game plan?”

Please don’t discourage them because once upon a time you took Latin and hated it and swore to never speak the dead language again- I will never forget being told I couldn’t be an actress because “you will never make any money”

This idea that I am blogging about is not a new one. Its all part of a philosophy talked about in a great book coming out called “Start” by Jon Acuff, all about how to “punch fear in the face” and “escaping average” I just read the first chapter and am filled with excitement and a new energy to go after my goals. For your review-

Lose 50 pounds- I have lost 17- which leaves 33 to go!!

Read more books- I have read two, working on a third

Get more sleep- up to 8 hours this week

Give 10 speeches this year- Giving my first one tonight

What do you want to do? What kind of support network do you need to build to do it?

Think about it.

 

To pre-order the Jon Acuff’s book, “START” here is the link

http://j.mp/WMzx8d

Forming a new habit takes 21 days…. or longer

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I have always held the belief that making or breaking a habit followed one simple formula:

Have idea to change or start activity+ 21 days of doing or not doing that activity =Habit Formed

However, when opening my email today and reading an excerpt from a new book, by Jeremy Dean, “Making Habits, Breaking Habits: Why We Do Things, Why We Don’t, and How to Make Any Change Stick

seems to indicate the harder the change, the longer the timeframe to move it from “idea” to “habit”. The range has been found to be anywhere from 21 to 96 and sometimes more depending on the complexity of the change. I have to say as someone trying to change eating habits, reading habits and spending habits all in one year, this comes as something of a relief.

 
Now, don’t mistake me, you still have to do the work, but this allows for some grace in the forming of the habit, and to allow you to realize that even if not perfect, the effort is worth it because it is in the effort to make a change for the positive, that we truly start the change.
 
By the way, changing eating habits for 30 days has yielded me 16 pounds less on my frame, more energy and sleeping better. I will get back to you on the rest.. What are you trying to change today, tomorrow and next week?

 

Flying in the teeth of failure!

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My teeth are in bad shape. They have been for years. I am ashamed by how they look in pictures, often I even close my lips to not expose my teeth. I have been told that I have genetics working against me, but its not all the progenitors fault, I share some of the blame too. For many years I was lax about my dental hygiene but in the last year or so,  I have been making efforts to improve the state of my health which includes my teeth.

After flossing, brushing, and mouth washing for months I walked into my dentist’s office yesterday very optimistic about what he is going to tell me. Perfect! I can really tell that you have been doing everything you should, and because of that, I don’t need to do any work on you. In retrospect, I realize this was a bit naive.  I sit in the chair and I brace myself, but still hoping for good news and then he tells me you need a crown, and he points out all the plaque and build up on my teeth though I have been working at this goal for a while. Needless to say, this was VERY disappointing news and at first all I could focus on is the result and what has happened and why did I waste all that time brushing and flossing and I am working myself up into quite a frothy milkshake, and then I realize its useless to complain about a bad result if you are doing all you know how to do to bring about a good one.

I calmed myself down, and decided it was time to learn what I was doing wrong.

So I ask the dentist to watch me floss and brush and I show them exactly how I am doing it and they show me how I am missing angles on this tooth after tooth and I have to slow down because my teeth are not even, I also need to angle my brush differently, and possibly get a different brand of electric toothbrush. I am very honest about my frustration and feeling that what I have been doing is fruitless and they show me X-rays so I can compare and its decidedly better. Can you imagine if I hadn’t been doing everything I have been doing? How much worse could it be?  He added, “This is an old problem, so no matter how much you brushed and flossed, you still would have needed a crown today.”  This makes me feel much better and I am re-energized in my goal to have better teeth. I can’t control genetics but I can be certain to floss, brush and rinse three times a day.

Here’s the closing thought, If you try and don’t succeed, you haven’t failed, it just means you haven’t succeeded yet and you need to adjust the game plan. Maybe get a new coach, or accountability partner. Now, go brush your teeth! Trust me!

Right place, right time

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Did you ever feel upset that your plans fell through and then you do something unexpected and it works out in a way you couldn’t possibly have foreseen?

Well, that happened to me yesterday and it is all thanks to “random acts of kindness” birthday. My 36th birthday is Saturday and instead of asking for presents, I have asked friends and family to do a random act of kindness for someone else instead of giving me a present. In years past that would not have been possible, because usually on my birthday, I just see me, and what I want but recently, I have been associated with a group of people who really inspire me to think about others and in a wonderful coincidence I was given a book called, “The Kindness of Strangers” and the idea sort of grew from there. If you haven’t read the book, I recommend you do. Its a literary meringue of goodness and written by top notch authors about their occasion to be helped by a “kind and benevolent” stranger while traveling to far off destinations. Each one a little more interesting than the next, but the thing I took from it was the ability we all have to do that “kindness” for a “stranger” So, the next time you are at Starbucks, consider paying for the person behind you, or buying someone’s groceries that they had to put back. It doesn’t have to cost money, but it will cost you some thought. 

I find the examining leads to lots of thoughts about other people and what you can do to bless them emotionally, spiritually or financially. What can you do today to make a stranger have a better day? Think about it!

Awake. Alert. Check!

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Well dear readers, it is 5:37 a.m. and I am awake. It helps that I have to be at work at 7:00. I am putting my money where my mouth is when it comes to rising early and thought it might be time to check in on my intentions and see how I am doing on my goals and intentions thus far.

Intentions- Less tv. More Books.

Well it was a rocky start, but I am happy to say in the last week, I have not watched television for three days running though Netflix has been beckoning to me with promises of British television and other entertaining fare. I have finished one book, started two more, and read a periodical.

Less talk. More Action-  Well I was awake at 5 a.m. and am actively working on my writing albeit bleary-eyed.

More face to face visits with coffee and tea. Less Facebook.

As of Saturday and Sunday, I had two face to face visits with friends and have three or four more planned. I have actively avoided posting on Facebook but am still scrolling for updates, must work on this.

More SLEEP. Well, I am up to six and a half hours of sleep a night and gaining on that eight hour mark.

I might add, my husband and I are adopting a lifestyle change to eat a paleo diet. Surprisingly, abstaining from the  restricted items on this is not as bad as I thought. Something I am discovering, is that it is only hard if you make it hard. It is only difficult if you say it is difficult. Are you detecting a theme, here?

Patience – June 2012

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I was just going over some of my old production photos and while this could hardly be called old, it WAS just June, it got me to thinking. That was six months ago and so many people have moved away, gotten married, and are having babies!

Life is short and it should be appreciated. Art is one way to appreciate life. Theatre is another. This production of “Patience” embodies both aspects of artistic expression and excellence in execution.

Small Steps=Big Change

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So yesterday, It was the second day of the New Year and I am just bursting with ideas and excitement about all the things I want to accomplish this year.  I sat right down to write my list and the first thing on it was to get eight hours of sleep every night besting my previous record of 5-6 each night last year. I got home last night fully intending to do just that.

Guess what, I failed. So I didn’t even make it to the third day of the year without failing to keep a resolution and then I realized something. My body is used to sleeping 5-6 hours a night, not 8, so when I tried to go to sleep and gain 8 hours, my body said, Whoa, this is different, and I don’t like it so I rebel and sure enough, I got 6 hours of sleep last night. So I aim a little lower, tonight my aim is to get 6 and a 1/2 hours of sleep, so as to gradually work my way up to 8. I also think resolution has a lot of pressure to it, so I am going to start calling it an intention. I have been focusing on living my life intentional so this is certainly apropos. So here are my intentions and I plan to go after them with gusto but in increments. Along the way, I may discover other intentions or a need to tweak or adjust the intentions already in place. That’s okay, this is life, not a movie.

Intentions- Less tv. More Books
Less talk. More Action
Less phone calls. More face to face visits with coffee and tea!!
Less Facebook. More SLEEP

What do you intend to do this year?

Going for the Gold- 2013 and Beyond!

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As we say goodbye to 2012, and we move into the new year.. My, my where did the time go?  I am mindful of the different things we all do to work towards a goal. The recent Olympics serve a an excellent template for how to go for “GOLD” in your life. The time that is devoted to one simple goal, “Gold” made me realize that while obstacles may seem insurmountable, they aren’t. I find that in going for the “Gold” in your own life you can use that as a way to keep in mind the important components of that.

 G- for Good.. “Perfect is the enemy of the good”-Voltaire Sometimes you find that while you strive to be perfect, you will fail every time, but good is often enough of a move forward.

O- Be Open to Obstacles. They often help clarify something you didn’t know or expect and can be guideposts to the next step in what you want to accomplish.

L- Listen. Listen. Listen. We have one mouth and two ears, you should bear this in mind and listen twice as much as you speak. Something someone else says or does could be the key to your forward motion.

D- Dedication. Focus on your goal, ask others for help, and if necessary, rededicate yourself after a setback. Think about how you can “Go for the Gold” in your own life, work, and relationships.

No More Milk Chocolate

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Three years ago, I joined a gym. I went but not regularly and never saw a drastic weight loss.

I continued eating chocolate, fatty foods, and drinking soda because I rationalized, “I go to the gym”. It will all work out in the wash. Not so much..

Right around Thanksgiving, I gave up soda, and considering its complimentary at my workplace this is a real testament of willpower. Surprisingly enough, I don’t miss it at all.

In early December, I took a hard look at my track record. Exercise but no change in diet. Now I have a slightly better diet but no regular exercise. Obviously something has to change. Since I made that decision, its become a lot easier to avoid tempting foods, so it truly is a mind over matter situation.

As of January 1st, my husband and I will be starting a paleo regime. I am careful to call it a regime and not a diet, as my intention is a lifestyle change, not a temporary fix. In addition, I will be working with a personal trainer. I am confident that the simultaneous acts of better nutrition and better exercise regimen will result in a healthier body and weight loss. Originally my goal was to lose 50 pounds but I realize that would be selling myself short. My goal is longer life. I have lots of things to do on this planet and would hate for one too many chocolate bars to cut my life short.